Valentine’s DayMonday, February 14th, 2011
Valentine’s Day – Not a day I have ever been a big fan of. It has always seemed more like a greeting card holiday to me. Don’t get me wrong, I am all about romance, just not that kind. It might also be because Ray and I were married 3 days before Valentine’s Day – on the 11th, so the 14th was never that big of a deal.
Friday would have been our 16th anniversary. Ray died 2 weeks before our 10th. We both knew that he would not be here on the day, although not a word was said about it. During that last week, we spent 95% of the time on the couch. We looked through pictures and notes. We talked about what was wonderful and what we could have done a lot better. A very poignant time. I weighed in at a whopping 95 pounds ( I am now 115) and Ray was so worried about me not eating. Unbelievable.
I have mentioned this before but Alexander and I attend a black Methodist church in San Francisco. It is much more than that but those are its roots. Yesterday, Rev. Williams talked about love – all the different kinds of love. Erotic, affection, friendship and unconditional. His theme for the day was that love is stronger than death.
So, Alexander and I talked a lot about love yesterday. About how families love each other, how parents love their children, how adults find love with another who shares their heart. And how, yes, love is so much stronger than death.
We cut out and made Valentines for each of his classmates and he chose stickers, for specific reasons, for each one. Enjoy today. Find a way to have it be something other than a greeting card holiday. Flowers are nice but love has nothing to do with anything other than our hearts.