Tori's Blog

Building Community on the Internet

Monday, April 13th, 2009

As you are getting to know me as a perinatal nurse and author who has a true passion for pregnancy and childbirth you should also know that I am a full-time, working, single mom. My husband, Ray died 4 years ago very quickly from an aggressive form of cancer when my son, Alexander was 4 years old and I was pregnant with our 3rd baby. Two years earlier we had lost a child late in my pregnancy during a life-saving surgery of mine.

How does blogging fit into my life and my story? It is something I am re-learning how to do but isn’t by any means new to me. Nearly 15 years ago, I was on the Internet with an amazing community called Stork Site. We were really early – there was no blogging at the time and no other pregnancy and parenting communities. What we found was that we all needed each other; women needed each other, men needed each other and we could cross all lines of distance and lifestyle through the Internet.

Now, in 2009 times are different- there are hundreds of community websites but what they provide is the same kind of connection. Relationships do develop – they shouldn’t be substitutes for human interaction but they do add to our lives.

The power of blogging and online communities is really evident in this article about the tragic death of a 1-year-old named Maddie. Maddie’s mother, Heather, ran a popular blog called The Spohrs are Multiplying. Upon news of her sudden and unexpected death over 100 blog posts were written and a surge of thousands of dollars went to the March of Dimes.

Mir Kamin at Blogher discussed her feelings about learning of the news through her Twitter community. Countless others commented on how, even though they were likely never to meet Maddie’s family, they were affected by her death and wanted to express their sadness to her family. The development of these sorts of relationships are the best part of Internet communities.

I’ll admit it. The protection of my time is critical for me. I fiercely guard it, for myself and for my family. That’s because I have so little of it. Every day I have to weigh what gets left undone because I just don’t have any more time. Parents world-wide know this. I blog late at night and early in the morning – solely to help build more community through the Internet, with the hope that I reassure or add value someone’s else’s life. I would love to hear how the Internet has added to your life.

Your Comments

  1. It’s allowed me to meet people like you! Seriously, as a 50-something mom of teens who left the workforce after working for 20 years, it’s tough to keep yourself “marketable”. I’ve also moved many times in my adult life and recently 2 years ago. The online community is always there even if you move geographically. I wonder if anyone has ever done a study amongst military or corporate wives to see if they tend to gravitate to their online world more because of constant moving. I wish the internet had been viable when we moved overseas while I was pregnant and had a 2 year old. It would have provided a great deal of solace in rough times!

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