Comments on: Boston Mamas http://www.thejoyofpregnancy.com/boston-mamas/ The Complete, Candid, and Reassuring Companion for Parents-To-Be Sun, 29 Aug 2010 16:47:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Tori Kropp http://www.thejoyofpregnancy.com/boston-mamas/comment-page-1/#comment-33 Tori Kropp Fri, 06 Mar 2009 19:04:14 +0000 http://thejoyofpregnancy.com/?p=123#comment-33 Hi Heather, First, let me congratulate you on the new addition coming soon to your family. Please know that your feelings are very, very normal. It sounds as though you are pretty early in this process and I have found that many adoptive parents work through the same feelings that you have. It is natural to grieve the fact that you are not carrying the pregnancy and time will help with that. Be honest with your husband about how you feel and know that the birth mother’s pregnancy is simply the way that you are receiving your child into your life. Once the baby is born, you will find that your love for your baby will be just the same as if you had given birth and you will not look back on how he or she joined your family. Hi Heather,

First, let me congratulate you on the new addition coming soon to your family. Please know that your feelings are very, very normal. It sounds as though you are pretty early in this process and I have found that many adoptive parents work through the same feelings that you have.

It is natural to grieve the fact that you are not carrying the pregnancy and time will help with that. Be honest with your husband about how you feel and know that the birth mother’s pregnancy is simply the way that you are receiving your child into your life. Once the baby is born, you will find that your love for your baby will be just the same as if you had given birth and you will not look back on how he or she joined your family.

]]> By: Heather T http://www.thejoyofpregnancy.com/boston-mamas/comment-page-1/#comment-32 Heather T Thu, 05 Mar 2009 19:03:35 +0000 http://thejoyofpregnancy.com/?p=123#comment-32 I have a 4 year old son and my husband and I are in the process of adopting a new baby. It’s an “open adoption” where we will (when we find her) get to know the birth mother while she is still pregnant. I have to say it is strange to think that I’ll be on the sidelines, knowing this birth mother is pregnant with the baby we will then adopt. Any advice on how to handle such ambivalent feelings? I’m missing the feeling of being pregnant and more than a bit envious of this birth mother - but I don’t want her to sense my ambivalent feelings - I want her to feel that I support her pregnancy 100%. I have a 4 year old son and my husband and I are in the process of adopting a new baby. It’s an “open adoption” where we will (when we find her) get to know the birth mother while she is still pregnant. I have to say it is strange to think that I’ll be on the sidelines, knowing this birth mother is pregnant with the baby we will then adopt. Any advice on how to handle such ambivalent feelings? I’m missing the feeling of being pregnant and more than a bit envious of this birth mother – but I don’t want her to sense my ambivalent feelings – I want her to feel that I support her pregnancy 100%.

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