1. Dear Carla,

    I am so very, very sorry about your loss of your daughter. I want to assure you, immediately, that nothing you did was responsible for your miscarriage. Becoming pregnant soon after your first baby and carrying your older child absolutely does not (and did not in your situation) cause preterm labor. You experienced true preterm labor. Often it comes quickly and without much pain or warning. Very little is understood about what actually does cause it and how to prevent it in all situations.

    In the highest level intensive care nursery (NICU), a baby still has minimal chances of surviving and being healthy when born at 24-25 weeks. It is simply not possible for a baby to survive earlier than that. Although you may have had a marginal placenta previa, it does not seem to be a factor in this. I do not know the entire circumstances of your baby’s birth but from my previous experience with this, it is most likely that she died because she was too early to be born.

    When an autopsy is performed on a premature baby, the vast majority of the time, the baby is found to have been perfectly healthy. Please do not regret your decision to have not had an autopsy. It is a very difficult time to make those kinds of choices.

    You need emotional and physical time and support to heal from your loss. It is important to express all your feelings of sadness and grief and to not rush the process. When you feel ready to consider becoming pregnant again, it will be very important that you see a Perinatologist. This is a specialized, high risk obstetrician who should care for you in your next pregnancy.

    Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you and please contact me anytime if you have any questions or need support.

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