Archive for 2009

  • The Madonna Phenomenon… no, not that Madonna

    Tuesday, May 5th, 2009

    Looking through women’s magazines and news articles about celebrity moms, you might conclude that new mothers are treated like royalty, or at least the mothers of royalty. By these accounts, new mothers glow, parents and in-laws dote, partners are awed, and girlfriends constantly stream in to help with the house, the kids, and the shopping. But does it really happen? Ask your mom or grandmother what things were like when she had her babies.

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  • Rewards of Motherhood: A Mother’s Day Edition

    Friday, May 1st, 2009

    As it’s getting closer to Mother’s Day I am doing a lot of thinking about motherhood. Just as with the stages of pregnancy, it changes and shifts as we move through each new stage and phase of our fetus/infant/toddler/child/tween/teenager… ah heck, baby’s life.

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  • Building Community on the Internet

    Monday, April 13th, 2009

    As you are getting to know me as a perinatal nurse and author who has a true passion for pregnancy and childbirth you should also know that I am a full-time, working, single mom. My husband, Ray died 4 years ago very quickly from an aggressive form of cancer when my son, Alexander was 4 years old and I was pregnant with our 3rd baby. Two years earlier we had lost a child late in my pregnancy during a life-saving surgery of mine.

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  • Cara Muhlhahn

    Monday, March 30th, 2009

    There has been a great deal of discussion during this last week regarding Cara Muhlhahn, the midwife portrayed in Ricki Lake’s film, The Business of Being Born. The article does a very good job of outlining several different aspects of her practice. Ms. Muhlhahn has birthed many hundreds of healthy babies and appears to be well thought of by the majority of her clients. She has also settled a “just under a million dollar” malpractice suit stemming from a baby damaged during birth and has had a baby die under her care.

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  • Same Sex Families

    Wednesday, March 11th, 2009

    I am in the line of work of building families. Well, actually not building them (their parents do that) but rather welcoming beautiful children into families. Families of all types, from all different kinds of backgrounds. It is remarkable all of the ways families can be created. I grew up in a traditional, Midwestern family. Within my own family, I have two stepsons, four “grandchildren” who call me “Tia”. They have four sets of grandparents and my own son calls my husband’s ex-wife Grandma.

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  • Homebirth vs. Hospital Birth – The Gloves Are Off

    Wednesday, March 4th, 2009

    Birthing babies is what I love most in the world. The fact that I now have women ask me “is it really bad for me to have my baby in a hospital?” breaks my heart and has forced me to come out swinging. Enough is enough. I can no longer sit back and listen to this dialogue about homebirth come up again and again without inserting some badly needed facts and a serious reality check. The argument is always the same by homebirth advocates. Hospitals are loud, hectic, bright, insensitive, uncaring machines full of greedy doctors and overworked “medical personnel” – (I am pretty sure as a nurse, that means me) who are just waiting to hook women up to unnecessary medications and prevent them from “trusting their bodies”.

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  • Whatever Happened to Being Pregnant and Being Normal?

    Wednesday, March 4th, 2009

    M.I.A sang and danced onstage at the Grammy’s while she was 9 months pregnant with a giant, beautiful belly. I just have to say “good for her”. Believe it or not, she didn’t really do anything so unusual. This is what she does. Actually, it is part of her career. It was hard not to miss all the press surrounding this seemingly dramatic act. Later I read the shocking headline, “M.I.A. has contractions before Grammys”. Oh, come on. It is perfectly normal to have contractions late in pregnancy and they have nothing to do with labor. This is just another example of how little is understand about pregnancy and how far we have drifted off course.

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  • Boston Mamas

    Thursday, February 19th, 2009

    I am so happy to let you know that The Joy of Pregnancy was reviewed at and you can win a copy of the book! Anyone can enter to win … five winners will be chosen. All you have to do is email with “Joy” in the subject line, and name one store where the book is available for sale.

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  • Yet Another Opinion on the “Octuplets”

    Monday, February 9th, 2009

    I have struggled with whether or not to actually give space to the whole topic of the octuplets but have decided that I just can’t help myself. It has been very interesting to see the collective social response that has occurred since we, as a society, first learned of their birth. We were awed and amazed as we saw the Kaiser physicians’ press conference. What a marvel! And then some facts started to trickle out. Grandma had some upsetting things to say about her daughter and within a week our awe turned to disbelief. An incredible miracle? Wonder of wonders? Hardly.

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  • In the News

    Wednesday, January 28th, 2009

    I have cold. More than that, I have a bad cold, complete with laryngitis and the feeling, as my mum has always said, of “the utter lack of cheer”. My having laryngitis means that I can’t talk which is one of the things I do on a regular basis. Oddly, not being able to talk also makes it difficult for me to write. As I write I tend to speak out loud to nobody in particular. It helps me focus. Focus isn’t happening today. Mrs. Grass’s chicken soup is, as it has been every time I have been sick since I was a child.

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